However the reason I'm posting about it is because I wanted to hear some others thoughts about what they think the etiquette is with wedding invites - so it is an away wedding being held on a Friday during the day. It's a couple of hours drive away so do-able, however with it being fair last minute now the accommodation in the area is either quite limited and/or fairly expensive. With the wedding being in the afternoon and the reception at night, I think we would need to stay one night. There's also the factor that guests will have to take the day off work (if possible, again, at last minute).
So while I would love to join in the celebration, there is quite a bit of organisation that needs to happen for me to attend, not to mention the cost.
My sister and I were discussing this though - it almost feels like the etiquette is such that if you are a) available to go b) financially able to afford the expense (as in you're not going to be living on bread and water to afford it), one should accept the invite?
Would you expect all people in this situation to accept, providing all that needs to be organised (leave, accommodation) can be done?
I think I would assess first if I really wanted to go- do you genuinely want to attend their wedding? If it adds up to much, Im sure the couple could understand. How annoyed can they get- the probably dont want you to bring up that you were a late invite to them so cant be too vocal if you dont attend!
ReplyDeleteYeh I think you're right because I saw them recently and they didn't mention it :) I'm hoping they won't be annoyed if I can't end up making it!
DeleteWell.. I am thinking because of the costs and organisation involved. Perhaps their relatives (with kids maybe) declined and they were able to invite more of their friends. You know how it is at weddings, there can only be x number of people due to cost factors or venue limitations. Then you have to invite so and so relatives first. This is my guess anyway. Go if you want to/able to afford. :)
ReplyDeleteThat's what we thought as well! Friday wedding definitely means less people would be able to go. We're going to see if we can make it, but yes I guess the bride/groom can't be upset if people can't make it.
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